Divorce is rarely a fun time in anyone’s life, although it may bring feelings of relief and release to some people. To others, it may lead to feelings of guilt and depression. Regardless of the reason you are divorcing, there are things you can do to survive the process intact and help get yourself to a good place.
1. Be active
Start getting physical, or, if you already are, stay that way. Engage in activities that you find enjoyable. Many things can be combined with socializing to meet that need, too; for instance, a bowling league gets you moving and meeting people. Joining a hiking club or taking a yoga class achieves similar results. If you prefer to exercise solo, hiking, running and walking are just a few things that can fit the bill.
2. Get support
Surviving difficult times alone is tricky; having a support network goes a long way. Family and friends are common avenues to turn to, but if they are not possible – or even if they are – you may enjoy groups tailored to divorced people, single parents or whatever fits your situation. There is no need to limit yourself to groups that have to do with marital status; volunteer organizations and groups that revolve around a shared hobby enable you to enhance your support network.
3. Go to counseling
In addition to support from family and friends, professional counselors can be invaluable resources in difficult times. They can help you deal with anxiety, fear, insecurity, guilt, happiness and other emotions you are experiencing. These professionals can also guide you through the process of understanding why the divorce occurred, the roles of both you and your spouse in it and how to get to a healthier place. If children are in the picture, therapists can also work to minimize the impact of the divorce on the children.
4. Nail down your finances
Financial pictures shift during divorce. You are probably living on less than you were used to, and being in control of money may seem overwhelming because you are not sure how much you will end up with after the divorce. Add to that the fact that your soon-to-be-ex-spouse may have been the one overseeing finances in the marriage. If necessary, take a course in budgeting, and learn how to pay down debt and how to take care of bills.
Divorce is a confusing time for practically everyone. Talking with a family law attorney can help you understand your options and ensure that the process goes as smoothly as possible.