Back-to-school season is in full swing, and for parents who have gone through a recent divorce, this can be a challenging time of year. Sending the kids off for the first day of school is something of a family tradition for many, and when one parent is suddenly left out, it can feel devastating. That is especially true on special years, like the first day of kindergarten or high school. The following tips are offered in the hopes of easing the way for Punta Gorda parents who are getting ready for that all-important “first” post-divorce first day.
It goes without saying that the best scenario is when parents are able to go through the first day rituals together. That, however, requires a high degree of cooperation and good will, which is sometimes not easy to muster in the months following a divorce. If there is little chance of a drama-free experience, then it is better to simply let one parent handle the task, and perhaps allow the other to take on next year’s big day.
If one parent will not be there for the first day of school, the other should make an effort to take photos to send. Even if the co-parenting relationship is strained, extending a simple act of kindness can go a long way. For example, if Dad always makes a pancake breakfast the first day of school, Mom might consider letting the kids spend the night at Dad’s house so that the tradition can continue, even if Mom picks the kids up and takes them to school.
Working together as co-parents is not always simple, and it is not always easy. However, it is always the best thing for the kids. The first day of school is just one of many opportunities for parents to set aside their differences and work on making positive memories for their shared children. Punta Gorda parents are urged to consider how they can get this school year off to an excellent start.
Source: The Huffington Post, “Back-To-School Tips For Divorcing Parents“, Carla Schiff Donnelly, Aug. 8, 2017